So as a teenager the words 'Girl Code' and 'Guy Code' seem to float around, but I actually realised that these are just words for being a good person. Here are my reasoning's/the 'Top Rules' of the 'Girl Code';
1. No hating on other women (should be person)- For some reason as a society we think its okay to drag a person down because of a) how they look b) how they feel c) where they come from or d) any other reason we can find. To me, that's not cool, its not clever and it certainly does not make you a nice person. The saying sticks and stones always comes into my head because I have been on the receiving end of that hate, and I can safely say, words do hurt, emotionally and mentally they hurt...a lot. The thing I find most ridiculous of all is how as a society we claim to hate this and yet still continue to do it. Nothing ever gives you a reason to hate on someone else, nothing. EVER.
2. No hating on other women's (again should be person's) success- This leads nicely on from point number 1, as a society we seem to believe we can judge a persons success and then hate on it. There are 2 or 3 extreme's in this case, at one end of the spectrum we have people like Taylor Swift who get bad mouthed for doing something they enjoy or writing number one albums and singles and turning their pain into something millions of people can not only enjoy but relate to. Rather than celebrating that a girl/woman has gone through pain and not only dealt with that, but made a piece of art out of that or that they have become successful without having an inflated ego and are still down to earth, for some reason we like to bring them down. On the other hand we have what I call the 'simplest's' the people who take pleasure through the simple things. For example some people define success as having a loving family or a family of their own. Yet even though they're happy we like to judge them because they don't live in a big mansion or drive a Ferrari (we also like to judge people who have a big mansion and drive Ferrari's as arrogant or having a mid-life crisis). Either way you won't win.
3. Watch out for each other/Be there for each other- This is one of my favourites 'If your friend gets dumped be there.' That shouldn't have to be written as a rule, ever. Take away the friend part, if you see someone hurt, or in trouble or in a vulnerable state/position, be there. Be that person, not the one that stands back and does nothing, if you're on the playground and you see someone being bullied, stop it, ask them to join you. Even if you are unsure just ask, that one simple question may prevent a lot of hassle, and even if they are okay and don't need your help, at least you will have peace of mind.
4. Treat others how you would you like to be treated- Ask yourself, 'How would I feel if this happened to me?' if the response is along the lines of 'not very good' you probably shouldn't do it, i.e. If you know a guy/girl has someone at home, don't go with them, if the y can do that to one person, they can do that to another. However, there is an exception to this rule, if the person would be better of being told the truth i.e.. you know their partner is cheating or they've misjudged the situation and are about to embarrass themselves, tell them. Do not shout it to the world, just take them to the side and tell them privately, they may hurt at first, but in the long run this may be inevitable and they will probably thank you eventually.
5. Be Honest- Again, if this is going to hurt the person and there is no need, sometimes you're better off saying nothing at all i.e. *insert name here* has said *insert insult here* about you. However, if they need to know this information, or if you don't tell them it will cause upset/pain/embarrassment etc. just be honest. If you see their partner cheating, tell them, if you know how much they're hurting inside (and maybe out) tell them because they may be to scared to tell you. I'd also like to point out it works both ways, as human beings we can't read each others thoughts and therefore unless we use our words, nobody will ever know. If you need help, be honest, ask, whether that is because you're struggling at school/college/uni/work, people will be there for you (even if its someone you least expect). Don't let it go so far you wish you'd said something earlier or at all, no matter what side your on.
None of these should be guidelines for how we act towards a specific group, or individual, it should be how we act as a society as a whole to everyone. Whether you are young, old, male, female it does not matter these shouldn't be rules, they should be human nature and for some strange reason we still have to be told to act in a respectful and caring way. Which to be honest kind of sucks, and if we all did these without having thinking twice, maybe the world would be a nicer, happier place to be in.
5. Be Honest- Again, if this is going to hurt the person and there is no need, sometimes you're better off saying nothing at all i.e. *insert name here* has said *insert insult here* about you. However, if they need to know this information, or if you don't tell them it will cause upset/pain/embarrassment etc. just be honest. If you see their partner cheating, tell them, if you know how much they're hurting inside (and maybe out) tell them because they may be to scared to tell you. I'd also like to point out it works both ways, as human beings we can't read each others thoughts and therefore unless we use our words, nobody will ever know. If you need help, be honest, ask, whether that is because you're struggling at school/college/uni/work, people will be there for you (even if its someone you least expect). Don't let it go so far you wish you'd said something earlier or at all, no matter what side your on.
None of these should be guidelines for how we act towards a specific group, or individual, it should be how we act as a society as a whole to everyone. Whether you are young, old, male, female it does not matter these shouldn't be rules, they should be human nature and for some strange reason we still have to be told to act in a respectful and caring way. Which to be honest kind of sucks, and if we all did these without having thinking twice, maybe the world would be a nicer, happier place to be in.
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